Wednesday, July 3, 2013
A brief note about friends
I'm not talking about the 'friends' you have on Facebook. You know, the ones you've never met but still somehow value their 'likes'.
I've had a lot of friends over the years. Lucky to say a couple of them are still around from elementary school (I'm now in my 30's.)
It's hard to say how one keeps friends. I mean, real friends. The kind that will not only be around when things are going well, but will get in your face to keep you from screwing up, and will stick around when you do screw up.
The ones that make fun of you because they know exactly how to make fun of you. But will still prop you up when you need it.
It's just something that clicks. You understand your friends. Your point of view is similar, even if you're really nothing alike.
I recently (in the last few years) lost a couple of good friends. No, they didn't pass away. They sort of... disappeared. In one case, I know what happened. Some disagreements that just didn't get resolved. Probably my fault for not trying harder.
But another, well. A real shame. This particular person helped get me through college when I wanted to give it up. Our artistic mash-ups were interesting and fun. Few others have sparked that level of creative synergy (synergy = a catch phrase I hoped never to use, but it describes the collaboration well).
Perhaps this is the way it's supposed to be, some friends are just supposed to come into your life when you need something they have to offer, or you have something to offer them. Or both. It's a transaction of experiences.
Hopefully I can catch up with some friends that have faded into the background, and I hope to meet some new ones that will last into the future.
Until then, I'll take it for what it is, and what it was, and what it can be.
Posted by Jeff Hayward at 7:28 PM